We are living in a careless and heartless world where people no longer care about the damage their actions can cause on other human beings. Are you aware that behind every face you meet there is a broken heart? The statistics of the brokenhearted in and outside the Church are so alarming. These traumatic experiences know no boundaries from the clergy to the laity, rich and poor, male and female, black and white. Some are heartbroken because of terminal illness. Others are heartbroken because of failed relationships or being slandered. Furthermore, others are heartbroken because of loss of a loved one through death or injury of a loved one through an accident. The list is endless. A lot of people are living in a world of denial or self-blame due to these heartbreaking experiences. On the other hand others have been further damaged by make-shift theories and so-called instant solutions from uncouth fly-by-night religious practitioners.
It is only when we clearly understand what it means to be heartbroken for us to dispense emotional healing. We will appreciate that Jesus Christ came to heal the brokenhearted and set at liberty them that are bruised and bleeding. The Psalmist says that he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). To be heartbroken means to be overwhelmingly distressed or sorrowful, to be hurt inside, to be crushed in spirit, to be grieved, to be anguished, to be devastated, to be disappointed. So every heartbreak will leave someone traumatised in their emotional system. In light of the above it is reasonable to conclude that a heartbreak causes you to lose part of yourself which you had voluntarily given to the significant other in whatever relationship you had developed. Humanly speaking we were created to connect, therefore when disconnection occurs we are bound to lose part of us which the significant other takes away and this hurts us significantly. Similarly to break up is a choice to kill something that is part of you. Ironically even if you did not initiate the break up, you still undergo the traumatic experience of the death of something that is part of you. A heartbreaker causes a lose/lose situation rather than a win/lose situation. Unfortunately a heartbroken person can be tempted to turn the emotion of love into hatred but this is just a cover-up emotion for the hurt hidden inside. Just like grief after suffering the loss of a loved one, the pain of a heartbreak does not go overnight. Dear friend, I do not promise you instant healing like instant coffee and instant pudding. Its a process of becoming. You have to go through the valley of the shadow of death but still trusting that Jesus is with you all the way. Listed below are a few tips to process your inner healing and deliverance:
# Cast your burdens unto Jesus for he cares for you
# Extent an olive branch to your hurters
# Accept brokenness as a reality of being human
# Let God collect your tears (Psalm 56:8)
# Go through it and not around i.e. deal with your pain head on (Psalm 23:4)
# Encourage yourself in the Lord with healing scriptures
# Do not try to figure out why especially WHY ME?
# View your brokenness as an opportunity to dispense sweetness rather than bitterness
# Beware that there are friends who stay and others who stray
# Learn to close some chapters in your life